Being an introvert, it might be exhausting to go out and present yourself on a regular basis. What comes naturally to others (and it might seem to everyone else at times), feels like hard work in these moments. On the other hand, writing and publishing means discussing interesting and important topics – in public. Which feels just great.
For me, working on getting published seems unnatural in times I just want to recharge by being with my closest friends and family. Tough combination: Wanting to be a published author and being an introvert (definition below) at the same time.
Maybe you have similar challenges to face. As a coach you may want to tell people about your work which is actually kind of private and intimate in its nature. Maybe you are a graphic artist with the drive to publish your drawings or sketches but it feels incomplete or still in a sensible state. Or maybe you learned to appear as an extrovert because of your job or position, but there are times you just want to be on your own for a while. Unfortunaley, it wouldn’t look good just to disappear.
No matter what it is exactly, you know it is important to stick to your plan and be present in the “outside world”. Here are some ideas how to cope with your “inner drives”.
Come up with a plan and allow yourself to toss it in the trash – or even better: keep it alive
Whatever it is for you: The idea of (inter)acting regularly on social media platforms, presenting upcoming workshops or telling the world about your latest team success – you want to present yourself and your work on a regular basis.
I love my editorial plan. It helps me to play with some new ideas, finding topics to work on and give myself some structure for several projects. Nevertheless, it does not convert into a strict to-do-list all of the time. Topics come up once I talk to people, read articles or books, interact on social media. I found a definition of introverts here. It says that small talk and pointless conversations tend to draw down an introverts energy rapidly. It is the same for me with “old” topics. I don’t want to write about them anymore. In an extreme case it feels like by having written down the title I already killed the spirit.
Now I can either toss it – or I have to find a new way to approach the topic. And voilà: Once it is a fresh discussion, it makes sense again. I just have to feel the blood still running through the veins of the text. So I think it is a good idea to go with the flow and trust in the right timing of topics and projects.
Take a look at your old work or some old feedback
For an introvert it can be essential to get some distance after an intense phase of stimulating and even joyful occasions. By taking a look at your older work or some long gone conversations, it is possible to get an inner distance without creating an outer gap.
Reading some of my older, already published articles helps me to regain some distance while staying present. Even though a certain text felt alive and fresh back then, when I read it now it feels grounded. It lasted. And it could even have been written by someone else.
What I also find very helpful is to read some old feedback which instantly brings to life a positive memory without having to go through the whole process of alignment with a person again. This might seem like a terribly egoistic thing to say, but it would seem even more egoistic to me to bother this person on my terms just to hear something encouraging.
© by Nadine Balazs